10 Things Christian Men Wish Christian Women Knew.
by: A David in Training
Jeremy did a good job last year. I dare say those tips will help every woman even in 2010. Here are some things we wish you knew:
We need you to help us be men.
Yes we do. You do this by being a woman. We are tired of hearing how much you can do and how you can survive without us. We get it. But help us please. You can do this by not “giving out the goods” so easily. Allow us to chase you. Give us ultimatums – we hate them, but they help us snap out of things much faster. My girlfriend and I are together because she gave me an ultimatum that led me into some of the most fervent prayers and counsel seeking I have done all my life. I was willing to continue playing it safe and testing the waters but she smelt it and put a stop to it immediately.
We need your respect, even though you generally mature faster than we do.
Like one of the married guys said, we actually might need your respect more than your love. We know you would like it more if we drove a bigger car or were spiritually more mature than we currently are. But we are works in progress, and one of the quickest ways to help us become who we should become for you, is to respect us. A respectful wife is one of the best ingredients for a happy marriage.
We need you to understand us.
We are not women. We cannot be your girlfriend. We try to care but it’s hard to concentrate on every minute detail of your life. Please allow us to wind down from tiring or stressful periods before you pounce on us with ‘the latest.’ We want to be romantic, but we aren’t quite sure we are good at it. Don’t sulk. Our mistakes are not planned – that’s why they are called mistakes. And if we act like klutzes around you, it’s because your beauty and demeanour take away all our concentration.
We need you to appreciate us.
Be truly thankful. Whether we get you a brand new car or fix the leak in your sink, we like it when you open your eyes wide and say thank you like a two year old. Don’t force it if it’s not there, but don’t keep your appreciation to yourself. It makes our day.
We want your attention.
We want you to notice that we’ve been working out. We want you to listen intently to our sermons in church, or to scream and jump in the bleachers when we’re on the field. We like thoughtful gifts even though they are inexpensive. You can’t encourage us if you don’t pay attention. “I really liked the way you described David’s sling”: Attention. 30 text messages a day: Stalking.
We don’t all think about sex all the time.
We really don’t. Many of us don’t even think about it every seven seconds.
…But we struggle with temptation, so don’t make it hard for us.
We want to see it all, but we know it’s not right to do that before we put a ring on your finger. Please help us by covering it up. Mystery is still in vogue for most of us. How can it not be, when it can actually be a barrier between us and sexual sin?
We want to see you. Not the heavily painted, grossly modified, scary, clown version of you.
Attraction is important. And we care about you being beautiful. But we want to see your face as it is. When we get married, we want to be able to touch your face without our palms turning brown with all the makeup and powder.
You can’t change us, so stop comparing us.
We are not your pastor, your professor, your boss, or your very diligent brother. Constantly comparing us shows you resent us and will eventually cause us to resent you. It all boils down to respect.
We love God.
Deeply. But we may express it a little differently. And we thank Him every day for you.
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