I Cheated with a Moslem Man!
Dear Pea,
I am a born again and was a virgin until two weeks ago. And then I cheated on my boyfriend, went all the way, had sex with a Moslem man of all people. He has been my friend for a long time and we would be dating only that he is Moslem. I am asking myself what I have done and what I can do to save myself from any curses that may arise from this soul tie since I am a Christian. I want to repent and go back to a godly walk and also want to be able to share this with my boyfriend but only if he is going to forgive me.
Nasunna
Hi Nasunna
Thanks for writing. I don’t see any question marks but I see many questions in your mail. Let’s first talk about having sex outside of wedlock. You say you had sex “with a Moslem man of all people.” God does not love you more than He loves this man. This is still God’s creation and a human being with a heart. You seem to be more concerned about the religion of the man than the fact that you have wronged two men, yourself, and most-importantly, God. Your question is the same as someone thinking that there is a difference between stealing a green pencil and a blue pencil, or between stealing a pencil and stealing a car. Just like the fact remains this person stole, in your case the reality is you committed fornication. I do not think it would make too much of a difference if it had been a Christian man. When you say “we would be dating only that he is Moslem,” it seems to me that this has been a long time coming and was bound to happen because you decided to remain attached to someone that you knew very well you could not be equally yoked to.
There is no need to continue asking yourself what you have done; the word for it is fornication. You cannot save yourself – that is doing the Lord’s job. Jesus became the curse for you and nobody else can wash you or me of any sin. You can repent; you can go back to a godly walk. You won’t accomplish it on your own, of course. You definitely need the Lord to guide you and renew your strength.
As for sharing this with your boyfriend, please put yourself in his shoes. Imagine walking into marriage thinking your wife has kept herself chaste for you. You live with this deception for years until, as always happens, things come to light. It would be so much harder for him to forgive you in the distant future than it would be if you told him about it now. Some people will tell you that what he does not know will not hurt him but the fact is he will get to know sooner or later. It would be unfair for you to keep this from him for selfish reasons such as not wanting to lose him. I say pray about it and ask God to guide you. My thought at this point is that you should share this with him, acknowledge your mistake and genuinely seek your boyfriend’s and God’s forgiveness. Let your boyfriend decide for himself if he will forgive you – don’t hold crucial information from him because you have decided for him that he won’t forgive you.
Lastly, I’d like to say sin begins at the thought level. Don’t miss what God has for you because you have been eyeing what is not yours.
I wish you all the best.
Blessings
P
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