Comments on: Don’t tell people not to date unbelievers! http://yakuti.org/2009/07/dont-tell-people-not-to-date-unbelievers/ Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:22:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Niki Afuye http://yakuti.org/2009/07/dont-tell-people-not-to-date-unbelievers/#comment-81 Niki Afuye Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:38:48 +0000 http://yakuti.org/?p=1884#comment-81 I've come to the realization that when God tells us not to do something there are reasons behind it. He doesn't just give us commands for the sake of giving us commands. Marriage was ordained by God and it is a picture in the flesh of Christ's love for the church. God's love is higher and purer than the love of this world. Its unconditional, its not "I love you today and hate you tomorrow." God's love is sacrifical love, of how He loved us so much even whilst we were still in our trangressions He sent His only begotten Son to come and die for us. Christ gave up the pleasures of life to bear the cup of the Father's wrath that was reserved for you and I (Ephesians 2:1-5, John 3:16-18). That is sacrifical love and that is how God wants us to love our spouse's, to the point that we are willing to die for them. 1 Corinthains 13 tells us what love is. Unless a person is a believer they will never understand what true love is, for those who are unbelievers are said to be in darkness (2 corinthains 6:14) As one person put it "The word unbeliver applies to all destitute of true faith. The fatal effects of neglecting scripture precepts as to marriages clearly appear. Instead of a help-meet, the union brings a snare." People who enter into such unions against the express warnings of God's Word must expect much distress. No marriage is perfect because a marriage involves two imperfect human beings (but we strive to become perfect) but there are some problems that can be avoided. Look at it this way, you go to chuch regulary and your partner attends church sometimes. You have children together. You want your children to attend church regulary with you but seeing that daddy doesn't the children want to follow his example, are you going to be happy with this? Another example is that of decision making. Are you going to be happy to submit to a man who makes ungodly decisions? Afterall, the Bible says that wives are to submit to their husbands for he is the head of the wife, the leader of his home (Ephesians 5:22-33). I agree with Paula that you are following deception. The belief that people can change is a lie from the pit of hell. Its Eve and the serpent all over again when the serpent told her that eating the forbidden fruit will not result in any fatal consquences only for her to bite into the fruit and for her eyes to be opened. Don't get me wrong, yes some husbands and wives have been known to change for the better in marriage but not without many tears, heartache and countless nights on ones knees. Why put yourself through all that? What if he doesn't change? Save yourself from distress by simply yeiding to God's warning. Don't be afraid to let go and let God. Another question I would employ you to ask youself sis is, do you love this man more than God? (Matthew 10:37, John 14:15 and 23) I’ve come to the realization that when God tells us not to do something there are reasons behind it. He doesn’t just give us commands for the sake of giving us commands.
Marriage was ordained by God and it is a picture in the flesh of Christ’s love for the church. God’s love is higher and purer than the love of this world. Its unconditional, its not “I love you today and hate you tomorrow.” God’s love is sacrifical love, of how He loved us so much even whilst we were still in our trangressions He sent His only begotten Son to come and die for us. Christ gave up the pleasures of life to bear the cup of the Father’s wrath that was reserved for you and I (Ephesians 2:1-5, John 3:16-18). That is sacrifical love and that is how God wants us to love our spouse’s, to the point that we are willing to die for them. 1 Corinthains 13 tells us what love is. Unless a person is a believer they will never understand what true love is, for those who are unbelievers are said to be in darkness (2 corinthains 6:14)
As one person put it “The word unbeliver applies to all destitute of true faith. The fatal effects of neglecting scripture precepts as to marriages clearly appear. Instead of a help-meet, the union brings a snare.”

People who enter into such unions against the express warnings of God’s Word must expect much distress. No marriage is perfect because a marriage involves two imperfect human beings (but we strive to become perfect) but there are some problems that can be avoided.

Look at it this way, you go to chuch regulary and your partner attends church sometimes. You have children together. You want your children to attend church regulary with you but seeing that daddy doesn’t the children want to follow his example, are you going to be happy with this? Another example is that of decision making. Are you going to be happy to submit to a man who makes ungodly decisions? Afterall, the Bible says that wives are to submit to their husbands for he is the head of the wife, the leader of his home (Ephesians 5:22-33).

I agree with Paula that you are following deception. The belief that people can change is a lie from the pit of hell. Its Eve and the serpent all over again when the serpent told her that eating the forbidden fruit will not result in any fatal consquences only for her to bite into the fruit and for her eyes to be opened. Don’t get me wrong, yes some husbands and wives have been known to change for the better in marriage but not without many tears, heartache and countless nights on ones knees. Why put yourself through all that? What if he doesn’t change? Save yourself from distress by simply yeiding to God’s warning. Don’t be afraid to let go and let God.

Another question I would employ you to ask youself sis is, do you love this man more than God? (Matthew 10:37, John 14:15 and 23)

]]> By: p. http://yakuti.org/2009/07/dont-tell-people-not-to-date-unbelievers/#comment-80 p. Tue, 01 Sep 2009 14:45:15 +0000 http://yakuti.org/?p=1884#comment-80 i don't think people can be told what to do or feel, most of the time they will do what they like. We don't like ferrari cause we are told to, we just do. well, you might not find the best characters in church but it is only God who knows how hard/or not they try to change. believer or not we have been blessed with very many characters whom we can only learn from. even the worst characters have been known to change. i don’t think people can be told what to do or feel, most of the time they will do what they like. We don’t like ferrari cause we are told to, we just do. well, you might not find the best characters in church but it is only God who knows how hard/or not they try to change. believer or not we have been blessed with very many characters whom we can only learn from. even the worst characters have been known to change.

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