Should I Ask Him Out?

Posted by Yakuti in Archives, Relationships | | 0 comments

Hi Pea,

Is it wrong for me to ask a guy out? I have been friends with this guy for two years, I like him loads and from his actions he seems to like me too but he can’t seem to see that it’s mutual. I don’t want to do something that would make me end up getting ashamed, or something spooky that will make him think I’m kukuz but at the same time……my plan is to just walk up to him and ask him what’s up what he wants and if he is stringing me along but first I want someone to let me know if am being crazy? Why can’t he get it, is it that we have different love languages?

Imelda.

Imelda, hi.

Thank you for your questions.

First things first: Ask God to give you the strength and the words to do and say what you are supposed to. I don’t think you should ask him out as you say, but there is nothing wrong with asking what his intentions are. Before you do, however, be prepared, count the cost like Jesus advised (Luke 14:28-32), because the answer could go either way. He might say he just wants to be friends, or he might say he would like to pursue a relationship with you. A friend of mine once told me he had absolutely no intentions for our friendship, and although I was not looking for any specific answer or hoping for a relationship, I found his answer surprising. Ask God to give you the strength to take whatever comes, whether it is a surprise, a shock or a disappointment, and ask for wisdom on how to react and what to say when you get the answer to your question. How will you react if he looks at you, wondering what you are talking about, surprised that you have thought of him in this way? How about if he bursts out laughing? Depending on his reaction, you might feel slightly embarrassed for sharing what you have shared, but at least it will be out in the open, and you will be able to move on with your life instead of continually hoping for something with no concrete resolution. As for love languages, hmm… it could be; perhaps he has been expressing himself in a love language you do not resonate with, or vice versa.

All the best, my dear! Have a merry Christmas.

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